Children are troublesome beings. If we take spirituality out of the equation, a child is a source of unnecessary life problems.
The reason is clear. If we were merely physical beings, then children are just arrangements of organic molecules who cry loudly, poop in their pants randomly and—even when behaving well—cost a lot of money. Our wanting to have them is simply the DNA’s default setting to propagate itself as we ride the stream of biological evolution.
That’s why, as individuals move away from spiritual traditions, it becomes more rational to not wanting children. We can even use science to argue for it, too .
On the other hand, a part of our non-materialistic soul recognises children as more than just physical beings. Even if you are not that religious, there are moments when your fiṭrah captures the unspoken messages borne by children .
Some messages may be painful but necessary.
For example, children chip away at your egoistic attachment to desires. When you are responsible for a child, your wants come second to their needs.
That can be annoying. Even after subcontracting their care to third parties, children are still draining your resources. It slows your career, making it harder (if not outright impossible) to have fun and be rich and famous in your field—all the stuff your ego desires since you were younger.
Yet, it can also be precisely what you need spiritually. It reminds you that your desires are not meant to take the throne, that you should continuously revise what you are chasing after in life.
Ultimately, to purify your soul, you must detach your ego from the illusions brought about by worldly desires, and submit your ego to the Truth (al-Ḥaqq). Only then, you can stop serving what is illusory, and start serving the Source of Reality.
However, at certain stages of our path, that complete detachment is too much. So, He teaches us to give up our self-centredness bit by bit; one way is through those adorable yet needy tiny humans.
Other messages are right in front of our nose that we often miss.
For example, children can extract more joy from one moment than we do from one whole day.
When playing a memory game, my 3-year-old niece lit up every time she got two matching pictures. Her eyes were wide open while waking up her aunt in the other room with her victorious scream.
When I was eating a pizza, a shrimp fell off its topping, but I caught it with my plate. My friend’s little daughter saw it. She giggled so brightly that I might as well resign as a lecturer and start a successful clown career.
Children remind us that how long you live is less valuable than how much you live. While adults often want expensive things and grand events to enjoy life, children capture the small sparks of joy as those moments flare and fade forever.
Perhaps that’s why—as troublesome as they are—it is not the most terrible thing to be around them. And next time you meet those little beings, reflect on what spiritual messages that they emanate.
 For example, 7 reasons people shouldn’t have children, according to science lists factors such as global warming and evidence of reduced income for women.
In the US, the number of births per 1000 women is reduced since 2010, where many women say no to parenthood.
Among men, there is a movement for not getting married and have children with women, to live ‘life your way rather than trying to make a woman happy or being a slave to cultural expectations’.
 Fiṭrah means primordial nature, the way something is originally created. When not covered by corruptions, our fiṭrah is inclined towards the Truth (The Byzantines, 30:30). Watch this insightful lecture: Primordial Nature of Human Beings.